When I was writing the movie Mean Girls [...] I went to a workshop taught by Rosaling Wiseman as part of my research. [...] She did this particular exercise [...] with about two hundred grown women, asking them to write down the moment they first "knew they were a woman". Meaning, "When did you first feel like a grown woman and not a girl?" [...] The group of women was racially and economically diverse, but the answers had a very similar theme.
Almost everyone first realized they were becoming a grown woman when some dude did something nasty to them. "I was walking home from ballet and a guy in a car yelled, 'Lick me!' " "I was babysitting my younger cousins when a guy drove by and yelled, 'Nice ass.' " There were pretty much zero examples like " I first knew I was a woman when my mother and father took me out to dinner to celebrate my success on the debate team." It was mostly men yelling shit from cars. Are they a patrol sent out to let girls know they've crossed into puberty? If so, it's working.
Tina Fey, in Bossypants